What is the value for an individual?
A banker told me - zero. An individual to bankers have zero value.
So, what is the value of the individual to the people around him?
Don't know. It can be very significant or totally zero.
The term 'value' that I am talking about has a very broad definition. It can be your abilities, skills, knowledge, relationships, monetary value, or anything else that you can think of that you have.
People form alliances/ task forces because one feels that the other individual has some values which helps. Try to think that, in a political party alliance, which consists of 3 parties, if one of the party has no MPs in the parliament, very few supporters/members, will the party be invited to the alliance? I don't think so. It must be some reason for one to be invited into the alliance. I am not saying who's making full use of the others, but for mutual benefits, they are together.
A banker told me - zero. An individual to bankers have zero value.
So, what is the value of the individual to the people around him?
Don't know. It can be very significant or totally zero.
The term 'value' that I am talking about has a very broad definition. It can be your abilities, skills, knowledge, relationships, monetary value, or anything else that you can think of that you have.
People form alliances/ task forces because one feels that the other individual has some values which helps. Try to think that, in a political party alliance, which consists of 3 parties, if one of the party has no MPs in the parliament, very few supporters/members, will the party be invited to the alliance? I don't think so. It must be some reason for one to be invited into the alliance. I am not saying who's making full use of the others, but for mutual benefits, they are together.
The same goes to the selecting and recruitment process. When a company thinks that you can benefit them from whichever ways, you'll get hired, otherwise, your job application will not be considered.
I have been through a lot of task forces since my freshman year in university. I always think that 'no one should bind to anyone/group'. When tasks were given out, different tasks group were formed. Maybe my thinking is different from others, I just cannot accept that the saying of 'XXX was dumped by YYY and co.' or 'WWW and co. left ZZZ behind and form a group by themselves' or 'I couldn't leave OOO alone because no one wants OOO' . I find it very difficult to accept those sayings.
From the relationship points of view, ya, those are correct. Without some kind of relationship to support, no one will say these.
For me, I think like this. Whenever I am not invited into a task group, I am lacking of 'values' that the group needs, or, my 'values' to the group is relatively smaller if compared to other potential group members.
Face the reality, if you cannot acquire the 'values' needed by the group, you won't be part of them. But if you have such 'values', people will come to you.
Don't blame anyone for 'dumping' you and you shall not feel ashamed for 'dumping' anyone. Tasks groups are formed for mutual benefits. Neither sorry nor swear words are needed.
Although I feel disappointed for not being chosen into a task group, but I am fine. I don' have the 'values' that the group needs, I think.
What is your value anyway?
